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There are certain ties that bind friendships together. A love of sports. Favorite foods. Travel. The list goes on. What are the ties that bind your strongest friendships together? Tradition plays a vital role in relationships. For more than 10 years now, my wife and I make huevos rancheros, fruit salad, mimosas and other items for our traditional Christmas morning brunch. Friends and family enjoy the tradition and it gives us another tie that binds us together as a couple. That's one of my most favorite moments of any year because everyone really seems to appreciate that annual gathering and sharing. Sharing a traditional place, meal or ritual can do a lot to bring people closer together and to give people more things to look forward to. I can't tell you how many times I've heard of someone near death, yet holding on for a week or a month longer so that they could be there for a birthday, anniversary, graduation or birth of a grandchild. Traditions are powerful in both family and friendships. My advice: Establish at least one tradition with every person you hold dear. My wife and I have a secret handshake that no one else knows. It's silly, and we laugh every time we do it. I'd tell you all the moves, but it's a secret. We laugh together about a lot of things. I guess that's part of our traditions too. During really tough times, she has been known to say "when I stop laughing, I guess that's when it's over." Hey honey, just in case you're reading this... think about the cows at your brother's house and "Say Cheese!" That's an inside joke, and I know she's laughing right now. I love being married. Our anniversary is the best tradition of all.